In this episode Paul and Dani sit down in a very real, very human place: tired, grieving, a little cynical, and unsure they “got it” today. What unfolds is an honest conversation about what happens when life hands you things that can’t be fixed — persistent grief, chronic stress, old childhood loneliness, the slow drip of exhaustion.

Together, they wrestle with what it means to support clients, friends, and each other when there’s no clear solution. At the heart of the episode is a simple but powerful shift: moving from “I don’t got this” to “We got this.” It’s a conversation about borrowing hope, showing up imperfectly, and discovering that sometimes connection — not fixing — is what actually transforms the moment.

Therapy is more than advice or coping strategies. In this post, we explore why in-person relational therapy — grounded in shared presence and real human connection — continues to offer something uniquely powerful in an increasingly digital world.

In this episode Paul Kindman reconnects with Lillian Farzan, a psychotherapist, digital nomad, poet, and activist. The conversation delves into Lillian's journey from interviewing for a position at Kindman and Co. just before the pandemic to establishing her private practice as a therapist while traveling the world. They discuss Lillian's personal experiences, and the importance of integrating personal values and activism into therapy. They also explore the significance of organizations like Standing Together, and the ongoing need to address systemic issues affecting mental health.

In a culture that glorifies independence and self-sufficiency, relational therapy is quiet resistance. It reminds us that healing is not a solo project but a collective one—rooted in empathy, repair, and real connection.

At Kindman & Co., we believe healing happens in community—and that includes men and masc-identified folks reimagining what masculinity can mean. In this post, Paul shares why expanding men’s emotional capacity matters, why group therapy is so powerful, and why he’s proud to support the launch of our new group, Redefining Masculinity. If you’ve ever felt boxed in by traditional scripts of ‘how to be a man,’ this one’s for you.

What happens when men are encouraged to cut off parts of themselves to fit into a narrow definition of masculinity? In this honest, nuanced conversation, three male therapists unpack how traditional gender norms shape emotional isolation—and how therapy offers a space to reconnect with tenderness, vulnerability, and real relational strength.

Our therapists come to Kindman & Co. because they want to work in an unsevered space. They seek a culture where authenticity, vulnerability, community, and connection aren’t just buzzwords—they’re practiced daily.

They understand that healing doesn’t stop at the therapy door—it’s shaped by the systems we work within, the relationships we hold, and the spaces we co-create. At Kindman & Co., we believe that when therapists are supported in being fully human, they’re better able to show up in powerful, connected ways for the people they serve.

What I have noticed in my years of practice, is that far too many couples wait too long before sitting down with a professional to care for their relationship. Many of us assume that we should be able to figure it out on our own (this is, of course, part of our pull-yourself-up-by-the-bootstraps culture). Yet the quality of our relationships is one of the most important predictors of a happy life. So the goal of this blog post is to dispel your fears about starting to prioritize your relationships by telling you exactly what you can expect when you sit down with one of the PACT therapists at Kindman & Co.

I think that the pathway to creating loving men is through showing men the love, care, and open embrace of all parts of their humanity. It’s important to remember that nothing about masculinity is inherently toxic. Masculinity can be beautiful, generative, and nurturing when it isn’t strangled by sexist ideals.